by Patrick Weaver
10/20/2025
Biblical divorce is one of the most misunderstood and falsely interpreted subjects in the Bible. All marriages are not a covenant marriage and neither does God join anybody together based on the words “I do.” A biblical covenant marriage not a verbal agreement, it’s a behavioral agreement. God searches the heart not words: “I the LORD search the heart and examine the mind, to reward each person according to their conduct, according to what their deeds deserve” (Jeremiah 17:10).
An abuser, as you will see, does not deserve a covenant relationship with God’s child or God.
“I Do,” and the marriage ceremony script used in marriages, is a man-made ritual taken from a 16th Century version of The Book of Common Prayer, printed in 1552, to distinguish between those who were married in the church and those who married outside of the church building. “I Do,” does not mean God did…join those two people together in direct contradiction of His word.
A covenant marriage is based on a behavioral agreement and comes with prerequisites. The first and fundamental agreement for a biblical covenant marriage is mutually submitted behavior that deeply and profoundly respects Christ: “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ” (Ephesians 5:21). An abuser’s behavior does not reverence Christ, it is the behavior of the Antichrist, which makes it impossible for God to join His child together with an abuser: “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” (Jeremiah 29:11). Doing so would make God out to be a liar and a covenant breaker…and God is not going to lie for an abuser or anybody else (Numbers 23:19).
Through this commandment by God for all covenant marriages, the rest of the covenant agreement (Ephesians 5:22-33) can be fulfilled: “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husband’s ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body. For this reason, a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh” (Ephesians 5:25-31).
Prophetically, God denounces any relationship that is unholy or unevenly yoked because He commands us to not give to dogs what is holy and do not throw our pearls down before swine (Matthew 7:6). You cannot be in a biblical covenant marriage with someone whose behavior is the opposite of the covenant agreement requirements…God did not join us together with that person, God forbids us from yoking up with that person regardless of what emotions, opinions or “I do” says: “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? Or what does a believer have in common with an unbeliever?” (2 Corinthians 6:14-16). This might be hard to hear for some…the sin isn’t divorcing the devil, the sin is staying in a marriage with the devil’s partner and giving to dogs what is holy, daily.
Any man who willfully, pathologically and diabolically abuses his spouse or household — mentally, emotionally or physically, is not only behaviorally an unbeliever but worse than an unbeliever: “Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever” (1 Timothy 5:8).
This same unbelieving, willful and contented rebellious individual is not only disqualified from being a biblical covenant mate, but they are also disqualified from being in a covenant relationship with God — for the same behavior. God divorces Himself from such an individual based on the same covenant breaking behavior, and turns them over to a reprobate mind — to live out their lives fulfilling the lust of their flesh, and as a result, excluded from heaven: “Furthermore, just as they did not think it worthwhile to retain the knowledge of God, so God gave them over to a depraved [reprobate] mind, so that they do what ought not to be done. They have become filled with every kind of wickedness, evil, greed and depravity. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit and malice. They are gossips, slanderers, God-haters, insolent, arrogant and boastful; they invent ways of doing evil; they disobey their parents; they have no understanding, no fidelity, no love, no mercy. Although they know God’s righteous decree that those who do such things deserve death, they not only continue to do these very things but also approve of those who practice them” (Romans 1:28-32).
For the same reason that God divorces Himself from the reprobate, His word consists of two biblical grounds for divorce — though only one is ever conveniently spoken of by the very same people who benefit from a woman staying in bondage with a reprobate.
The two biblical grounds for divorce that sets an injured spouse free are adultery — emotional or physical, and abandonment of the covenant — physically or behaviorally: “But if the unbelieving husband or wife departs, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace” (1 Corinthians 7:15).
The idea that God would not apply the same standards that He applies to relationship with Him to a covenant breaking, behaviorally unbelieving spouse is but another man-ufactured, toxic patriarchal lie spread for the sole benefit of the church wolves who, since Jesus walked the earth, have used religion/false doctrine as a cover to devour the sheep (Matthews Chapter 23).
To any and all abuse victims, run from, divorce a monster masquerading as a covenant partner. If anybody doesn’t like it, tell them to reread their Bible and take their faulty opinions to God.
Carry On!
Patrick Weaver Patrick Weaver – HOME
Dear Readers,
I made a post yesterday about abuse being biblical grounds for divorce from an abuser, and someone commented, “Abuse is not clearly defined, biblically.” I responded to the comment and wanted to post my response because we all need to know the answer to this, as Christians.
Let me just say this so that we, Christians, are clear about what God’s word says about abuse. Abuse is not a civil disagreement, a difference of opinion or a mistake. Every couple argues, every couple will have a heated debate or disagreement, we’re human. Abuse is not an argument, a mistake, a difference of opinion, a bad day or an off day. Abuse is a pattern of behavior that creates an unsafe, unstable and disrespectful environment. Abuse is a choice and is always accompanied by the reality that they know their actions are not only hurtful, harmful and disrespectful but they will blame you for bleeding on their knife, “apolo-lie” or evade accountability.
Christian’s need to refer to the Bible about abuse. Abuse — mental, emotional and physical, is clearly defined in the Bible, and God gives specific commandments for dealing with anyone who presents abusive, depraved and harmful behavior: “By their fruit you will recognize them…” (Matthew 7:16-20).
God spells it out in no uncertain terms: “Warn a divisive person once and then warn them a second time. After that, have nothing to do with them. You may be sure that such people are warped and sinful; they are self-condemned” (Titus 3:10-11).
“But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God— having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people” (2 Timothy 3:1-5)
“I meant that you are not to associate with anyone who claims to be a believer yet indulges in sexual sin, or is greedy, or worships idols, or is abusive, or is a drunkard, or cheats people. Don’t even eat with such people” (1 Corinthians 5:11)
We know what abuse is, and we know what God told us to do about an abuser and why, repeatedly: “Do not give dogs what is holy; do not throw your pearls before swine. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and then turn and tear you to pieces” (Matthew 7:6). The consequence is, “they will tear you to pieces.”
The body of Christ should know these biblical truths about abuse and an abuser, better than anyone. Don’t be confused, the Bible does not tell us to pet the devil, the Bible said, “Resist the devil.”
If you believe God doesn’t release His child from an abusive marriage, despite knowing that you only heard that, then I would just say to the people who have been told that same lie, please read my post from yesterday that biblically breaks down the biblical meaning of divorce, and the scripture that tells us that adultery is not the only biblical grounds for divorce, but abandonment of the covenant — physically or behaviorally, is also biblical grounds for divorce. Not only from you but from God as well.
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Carry On!
Patrick Weaver Patrick Weaver – HOME